I remember when I was young. I remember telling everyone I was saving myself for marriage. I made a promise to God I would wait. When I was 18 1/2 I had sex for the first time. I dated that guy for 3 years and still had sex. He was my only partner before Hubby and I got married.
I
regretted not waiting. I had to ask God many times to
forgive me before I really felt any better. It was really hard for me to know that I had broken that promise.
I have really been starting to open my eyes to the problem out there with our kids. They think sex is no big thing. They don' t even think about the risk of getting pregnant or getting a STD or AIDS. I have talked to 2 different girls in the last couple of days. One is 15 and one is 18. They both have already had sex. One has had only one partner and the other lets just say more than one. It makes me sad to know that they didn't wait or really want to wait or known to wait.
God made sex for
married adults. He made sex to make babies and for adults to show affection, love, and pleasure to one another. He didn't make sex to be
casual between kids, teens, or even unmarried adults. There is so much in the Bible (God's Word and his plan for us and our lives) on this subject. And if I had my bible right now I would tell you some of them.
I can tell you that I can tell a difference between the sex I had with my first partner and the love making I have with my Hubby. There is a difference I can tell you that is from God. He made it for marriage couples and that is what he wants for all of us. He wants us to want that for
ourselves. He wants us to be strong enough and trust in him for the strength to say no until marriage. And that doesn't mean that just because your engaged that it is
ok. Making love should be done only and only after the vows have been said.
I know that I am probably not making allot of sense. And I am jumping all around. I do that allot. But this is really
frustrating me. I don't want my kids (boys or my daughter) to feel like sex is no big deal and waiting isn't important. It is!!!!
Why don't these kids think about what could happen if they have sex. Even if they use birth control or condoms. They can still get pregnant and get a STD. They think that it can't and won't happen to them. But what happens when it does. Do these girls really think that these boys are going to tell them the truth that they haven't had sex before or that they don't have a STD or AIDS. It is so scary. These things can spread so fast and easily. And these kids just don't think!!
My question is how can I get my kids not to do this. How do I teach them that God intended sex for marriage. And they need to wait. How do I tell them that when I didn't wait. I wish with all my heart I had.
But where did we go wrong with these other kids. When did parents stop wanting the best for their kids. When did they stop asking the hard questions. When did they stop caring about where they are, what their doing, and who they with. Why do people believe abortion is an option to their daughter having unwanted pregnancy? Why did parents stop talking to their kids about sex and what God
intended it for. And that it is not
ok to do out of marriage. Why do parents let their kids date so early. Or that they let their daughters be alone with boys. And sex isn't just regular sex it mean oral sex, touching and felling any private parts. Seeing either sex naked. None of this is
ok before marriage. It is not want God wants for us or our kids!!!
I can tell you my sons and daughter will not be aloud to be at
anyones home if they parents are home. They will not be aloud at friends houses that I don't know the kids and their parents. They will be spending allot of time with their friends at our house. They will not be aloud to drive with their friends in the car and they will not be getting into the car with teenagers driving. I know they will think I am mean. But when they are parents I hope they are able to look back and be
grateful that I and their Daddy loved them so much to be rules like theses into place to keep them safe.
I pray that God will help their Daddy and I raise our 5 kids and may more he gives us down the road to be Christian adults. That they fear and trust our Heavenly Father. That he has their best interest in his rules for us. That his plan for their lives is better than any plan they could
imagine!!
I hope you will pray for your kids. I pray you will to talk to your kids about this. Start young and be open. When you think they are ready. Share your
regrets and falls. Lift them up to our Heavenly Father that they will not fall but succeed in waiting. But if they do fall. Let them know it is never to late to become a Born Again Virgin!!! At 21 I did it!!
One thing that I did that helped me after I broke up with the only partner I had was this. I only dated a few guys after that. With all of the guys though the first thing I told them after we started talking and went on a date. Was that I wasn't making love to anyone until I am married. Most of them left and never called me back after one date because of this. But that was
ok. I knew that those guys weren't right for me. When I told my hubby this....He was on board with it. He felt the same way. And I tell you what. Our wedding night was the most special time I have ever had in my life. All because we waited.
So I know this is a tough subject. But I had to write about it. Even if it just for me. Again I know this is jumpy and probably doesn't make much sense. But it is how I am feeling!!
Mommy of 5
